Self Control is Sign of Rich Nature

Self-control is defined as "control of oneself" or the "ability to master one's desires and impulses. Interestingly, self-control is actually perceived in a number of ways. Philosophically speaking self-control could be described as the exertion of one's own will. Psychologically, self-control usually refers to a person's self-perception, belief system, as well as the ability to set boundaries on their own behavior. Among some scientific communities, the issue seems to be whether or not what we perceive as "normal" (and hence the standard that the person lacking self-control violates) is truly an accurate setting to work with. Most people assume that self-control is healthier than impulsiveness. However, this has to be compared to each person's value system. For example, some communities may demand stringent behavior as regards sexual morality. Other communities will hold that generosity and pacifism are more important than law. Then some communities will stress that allegiance to a mission is what is truly righteous. Which of the communities has the highest standard of morality?

Self-Control for Self Improvement

The Olympics are just around the corner and the best persons to demonstrate how to have self-control are the athletes competing in them. Just think about how much they have to train day in and day out in order to compete for years in advance. That is unbelievable isn't it? Imagine to have self control like that! Think of how many times you tried to begin a new diet or tried to start an exercise program or begin reading again or going back to school. Where you able to finish what you started? Are you still going? Do you want to be better and have self-control?

I was looking at these questions in order to find out how to have self control so I can be more satisfied with my daily actions. I wanted to see if I could break it down in order to understand what it takes to have better self control.

So here are a list of areas that we need to have understood in order to gain better self-control

1. Acknowledge you have a problem/situation.

We all have something that is causing us to not be able to commit. It could be unhealthy desires, bad habits, bad support system, emotional baggage etc. It really does not matter what it is. But what is important is that we need to face ourselves and understand that we have a problem with self control.

2. Put your past behind you

It is important to acknowledge the past but we cannot let it drag us down and prevent us from moving forward. So we must let go of everything that happened yesterday and look forward toward what is ahead. It is very difficult to gain self-control for our futures if we spend to much time dwelling on the past.

3. Swatting your feelings for self control

We are all human beings and we are creatures of emotions. On any given day we can be as high as kites with a soaring spirit. Nothing can stop us and everything is perfect. Yet somedays it takes only one turn of events and we come crashing down into the depths of despair. Nothing goes right anymore, things are confusing and scary and there seems to be no clear solution. This happens a lot but it is important to know that feelings come and go but you need to swat those feelings down and understand sometimes feelings can lead us down the wrong path, away from self-control. If you are feeling hungry for chocolate cake but you are trying to loose weight... SWAT! If you are feeling tired but you have not done any exercise yet today... SWAT! If you do not feel like spending time with you spouse but you have not seen each other all day and they needs to talk... SWAT!!! Feelings are just feelings and its OK to experience them but control you.

4. Make yourself accountable

This is a great way to keep on track and gain strength through numbers. When you are accountable for anything you will gain better self control. The best way to do this is to make what ever your goal is public. So start a blog about what you are doing, talk with your friends and family and let them know what you are doing and ask them to check up on you once in a while. Doing this will help you stay on track when those "feelings" show up and try to lead you astray.

5. Avoid temptations

DUH!!!!! Well it is not that easy sometimes but you can set yourself up in better situations so you are not tempted and loose self control. I remember when I began doing the p90x workouts and one of the first things they had you do was to go into your kitchen and get rid of all of your junk food. They literally wanted you to throw away anything that was not part of this food program because they knew that when it got tough it is far too easy to eat the comforting junk food. It is the same with many things. Are you having problems in your relationship? Well may be you should purge out the people who are not supporting you or the ones that are tempting you to be unfaithful. Are you trying to develop self-control? Maybe it is a good thing not to hangout with people that are lazy and have not ambition in life. What ever it is you stand a better chance in gaining self-control if you avoid temptations

With just these 5 areas addressed you will be able to develop more self control and stand a better chance accomplishing anything that you set your sites on for your present and for your future.

All The Best

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